let's stop the judgement!

I want to start this off by saying that I am in no way perfect 

and am definitely at fault for doing this myself. 

I just think we need to confront it head on... 
We as women need to listen to each other 
and actually hear what the other women are saying.

We as women need to be so much more supportive to each other than we are. 

In everything... 

In motherhood {& everything that comes with it}... 

In body image... 

In relationships...

Let's just support each other! 

Stop judging each other and love each other for who we are. 

We are all different but yet we're all the same. 

We all come from different places 

and have different relationships 

and lives, but we all have feelings 

and we all have to be willing not only to see the difference{s} but understand them.

I love just like you do. 

I see faults in myself every.single.time I look in the mirror just like you. 

I have rough days and amazing days just like you. 

I have special qualities just like you. 

I work so hard to be happy just like you. 

I feel just like you. 

I don't want to care that you breastfed your kid when I didn't...

I don't want to care that you feed your kids all organic when I feed my kids whatever...

I don't want to care that you are in perfect shape and I am so far from it it's not even funny...

I don't want to care that you have a best friend but I don't...

I just want to see you 

and know you 

and love you for who you are.

In all your beautiful, amazing, funny, charming, sweet glory!

So why can't we just support each other and say I understand... 

I'm here for you no matter what.

So this is what I propose that we stop judging 

and start supporting each other no matter 

our differences or our similarities!

I have a problem... HELP!

So I have a big problem with my little man...

He is way too attached to his binky.

I mean way to attached!

{don't mind the scratches he had a fight with my parents cat & lost!}

He has to constantly have it in his mouth. 

88% of the pictures I take of him have that darn binky in them

and I want to see that cute little mouth of his.

What is a momma to do?

So I am asking for your help!

What can I do to get rid of that thing?

I will let him keep it for sleeping for now since he's only one. 

But all other times I don't think he needs it.

It's just a distraction...

and I definitely think it's keeping him from talking,

since he never, ever takes it out of his mouth!

So I am asking for you to give me some advice.

Any advice on how to get rid of a binky,

I'll totally take it.

He throws a huge tantrum when I take it away from him.

I need you to help me figure out how to get rid of this annoying little thing!

It's totally driving me nuts. 

He's just too cute to run around 24/7 with that damn thing in his mouth!!

Lonely

Have you ever felt lonely? 

My eyes are ever on the LORD, 

for only he will release my feet from the snare.

Turn to me and be gracious to me, 

for I am lonely and afflicted. 

Relieve the troubles of my heart and 

free me from my anguish.

Psalms 25:15-17

Well I do right now. 

I feel abandoned and lonely! 

Ever since my son was born I have seen less and less of my friends. 

I know it's not because they don't still love me, it's because we are in different parts of our lives now. 

It really, totally sucks. 

Source

I don't have many friends who actually have kids that I can get together with and have play dates. 

I started blogging around the time I stopped seeing most of my friends regularly. 

I think it was a way for me to try to find friends in my area. 

People who have kids and would enjoy hanging out with Zane & me and not just want to see me without him. 

But I still haven't found anyone really. 

I have started following people who live close to me but we haven't connected or even really spoken through e-mail or anything. 

I have tried but no one has really been that responsive at all. 

Which is fine I don't expect people to jump at the 

chance to be my friend.

I'd just love to have someone to talk to or go out with. 

Even have a girls night with once & awhile.

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I am just so fucking lonely! 

I need someone to share my mommy stresses with, 

someone who will understand and not just blow it off like it's not important. 

I feel like having a child has made me a leper. 

I am not at all saying that I would EVER change my life!!

I love every single second I have with my son. 

I just need an adult friend who understands the trials & tribulations of being a mommy. 

Source

I know, I know I sound like a whiney bitch, 

but come on don't I deserve to have people in this world who want to hang out with me, 

talk to me, 

love me, 

understand me, 

and all that comes along with a friendship?

Source

I think I do! 

Actually I know I do. 

I am just very unlucky in finding it.

Maybe someday someone will come into my life and finally be there for me forever as my friend.

Source

A girl can hope right?

Strugglin'

So I have been struggling with a few things these past few weeks:

#1} My sex life. My hubs is home and I am so excited about that but our sex life is pretty much NON-exsistent. We both always seem to have excuses for not being intimate with each other (i.e. too tired, don't feel good, the little man, etc.) We just can't seem to sync when we are both "in the mood". It is really weighing heavily on me and I am sure it is weighing on my hubs, too. It's so darn frustrating for me and I can pretty much guess it's frustrating for him too. What can we do? I mean I feel like it's just never going to happen unless we are trying to have another baby like it's a job or something. I hate this feeling and I really don't know what to do about it. Anyone have any suggestions?! I don't know if it's TMI for you guys but I am really just stuck between a rock and a hard place it feels like. If you could just find it in your hearts to help me out that would be completely amazing.

#2} My weight. I just can't seem to lose weight. I am so unhappy with myself but I can't force myself to get up off my big booty and work out. I have the opportunity now that the hubs is back from Academy to work out when he gets home from work in the evening but I just can't get myself up off the couch to actually do it. I have to get my act together or I am going to be completely miserable with myself for the rest of my life and I just can't imagine living my life like that. So what can I do to force myself to get up off my fat booty and work out? I have NO idea... I am just not motivated to lose the weight it seems like. I need someone to push me or something. I am still eating like I have been with smaller portions and healthier but the workout part of my weight loss is completely non-exsistent... wow that just sounds lazy! I hope I am not a lazy person but sometimes I feel like I am. Oh man I have GOT to get my act together or I am going to go crazy.

#3} My Susie-Homemaker(ness). I can tell you that I am not the greatest housewife ever, I don't cook well. So my hubs does most of it and I hate that fact. I feel like I am failing him when I don't have dinner ready for him when he gets home. I am also not a very good housekeeper, my house always seems to be a complete disaster, I know one reason for that is because we have no extra storage space and we have a baby who has mounds and mounds of toys that have completely taken over our living room/den areas of our home, because we have no other place to have him play. His room is the size of a cracker box so he can't have the majority of his toys in there so we are left with the living room/den. But I swear the kitchen table is always piled with CRAP! almost every time when we are sitting down to a dinner, that my hubs has cooked, we are pushing the piles out of the way to eat at our table. We only have an eating area in the kitchen no dining room so that doesn't help with the amount of clutter that piles up on the table. We just don't have places to put things anymore and we seem to accumulate things like crazy. It is driving me mad! I need HELP! I am desperate to have a clean home. I don't like the way my house looks most of the time but I don't know what else to do!

So those are my three major struggles at this point. I just really need some advice from my wonderful blogger friends. So if anyone out there can find it in their hearts to message or e-mail me with some help that would be so sweet and amazing of you! You can e-mail me at libbywilson21 {at} mac {dot} com or you can comment here on my blog. Either way I would appreciate the help. Thank you my loves!